How to Answer Questions About Your Wedding During the Holidays
The holidays are here! And it’s (supposed to be) the most wonderful time of year, right? If we’re being honest, we all know that the holidays are as fun-filled and exciting as they are chaotic.
Rushing to finish work projects before your much-needed time off…. Prepping your house for any holiday guests…. Shopping for gifts for your loved ones…. Stocking up on groceries in preparation for record-breaking snowfalls…
All jokes aside, let’s not make wedding planning another stressor on that list. We’ve put together this quick guide to help you navigate holiday wedding talk.
Ryann & Noah at La Pointe Events // Alyssa Rados Photography
Your Strategy
Chat with your partner before attending any family events and make a game plan. Know what wedding details you’re willing to share, and at what point you want to let family know you’ve had enough. (Do you want opinions on your color palette/theme? Will you share vendors you’ve hired or ask for input on those you still need to hire? Etc). If it's not something you want opinions on, give yourself permission to let friends/family know (and arm yourself with our clever responses below!).
To nix too much wedding talk at holiday gatherings, let your trusted partners-in-planning know that you're excited to chat with them, but not during dinner. Host a separate "wedding planning session" for those you trust most where everyone can ask all their burning questions and you can chat about the details then.
Your Back-Pocket Answers:
For the generic “How’s wedding planning going?” >>> “Really well! We’re actually taking a break from planning until the holidays are over.”
For when someone asks about your budget >>> “We’re not going to discuss that, but our day is going to be beautiful/incredibly fun/an amazing party, and we can’t wait to celebrate with you!” Or, my personal favorite, “Why? Are you chipping in?”
For all the "Have you done X yet?" or "What will you do about "Y" questions >>> "Actually, our wedding planner has been so great helping us manage that!”
For any nosy questions (to see your dress, what your first dance song is, etc). >>> “I’m so glad you’re excited! It’ll be even more exciting on my wedding day!”
For the well-meaning (or maybe totally condescending) opinion you didn’t ask for >>> “We appreciate your opinion, but [the venue/that date/this colorscheme] is perfect for us and we’re both really happy with that decision!”
Don’t be afraid to set boundaries this holiday season. Wedding planning can be a LOT, and talking about it all the time can be equally exhausting… Hopefully, these answers help people get the hint!
What if you’re engaged, but haven’t set a date or booked a venue yet?
When you inevitably get asked, “Do you have a date/season/vision in mind?” or “Have you toured any venues yet?” or “You’re planning to get married that quick/wait that long?!”
Here’s your response:
“We’re enjoying our engagement and relaxing for the holidays before deciding any wedding details!”
“We’re as excited as you are! We’re actually working with our wedding planner to determine our vision & priorities first, and then we’ll start making those decisions!”
On your way to holiday gatherings this year, just remember, your friends & family are asking about your wedding because they care.
Your wedding is considered to be one of the most special and important days of your life. It’s a big deal, with a lot of big decisions to be made. Your loved ones likely don’t mean to put any pressure or stress on you with their questions — they’re just excited to hear about your plans, and even more excited to celebrate with you!
If all else fails when friends or family start getting carried away… *takes mouthful of pie* “Sorry, can’t talk!”
